Funeral wishes are a kindness to the people you love. They do not need to be a legal will — they need to be findable and clear.

What to cover

  • Burial or cremation
  • Faith or celebrant preferences
  • Music, readings, dress code
  • Wake preferences
  • Donations vs flowers

Store them somewhere obvious

Use our free funeral wishes plan and tell one trusted person where it lives.

Review every few years

Preferences change. A five-minute update prevents outdated instructions.

Keep Tomorrow Remembered in the loop

Our directory, funeral wishes and memoriams are designed to sit beside your funeral director — not replace them. Use what helps, and share links with family so everyone sees the same plan.

When a gathering needs a larger venue than a traditional wake room, our partner The Ideal Venue lists hotels and celebration spaces. For ocean-centred memorial ideas, see Reef of Remembrance.

Make wishes useful to the people left behind

Funeral wishes work best when they are specific and findable: music tracks, readings, burial or cremation preference, who should speak, and anything you definitely do not want. Store a copy where family can find it — and tell one trusted person it exists.

You can start a structured record in our funeral wishes vault and share an export with your funeral director later. Pair it with an online memoriam if you want a place for photos and stories after the day.